A Question I Was Asked:



Can I Be a Gay Christian?






The Question:

I believe myself to be a very faithful christian. I am also gay. I have spoken with my pastor and he says that God made me the way I am and I should be proud of myself. But I spoke with another friend and she said that her pastor said that "being gay was a sin." Who should I believe?


UK Apologetics Reply:

Obviously, since here we have a Christian asking a serious and sincere question, I will be pastoral in my approach. This is not the place to slam modern society for the way it is headed.

The Bible, for sure, does not recommend that people should be 'gay,' but there again, it does not go into details on a whole lot of matters. Yes, sin is sin but none are free of that. Some fundamentalists appear to think that homosexuals control the 'sin market' but that is not so. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God!

Whilst there have always been a few people who prefer their own sex, that is, regarding romantic and physical love, the 20th century saw a huge incease in this tendency. It cannot be a coincidence that this century also - we are told - saw an apparent huge decline in the average male sperm count, at least in the 'civilized' West. I am informed (by people who understand these things) that if a man's sperm count is very low, that man will also tend to be more effeminate; if he is more effeminate, other men (rather than women) will tend to be attracted in his direction and he himself may well prefer men.

Medical experts tell us that, in some cases, a problem in the mother's womb leads to some boys lacking sufficient male hormones; the result is an intersex baby (formerly called a 'hermaphrodite' baby). In such a case, the child will be sexually ambiguous; such a thing is obviously not the fault of that child. In the UK about 2,000 babies are born every year who are sexually ambiguous and could be raised as either sex. At every birth, pressure is immediately put on medics to declare, "is it a boy or girl?" but sometimes they would like a day or two to discuss this because it is unclear in some cases, though, of course, these cases are a minority. The explanation for intersexism is still being debated, but a finger is usually pointed in the direction of xeno-estrogens (estrogen mimics) which are to be found almost everywhere in modern industrialized society (estrogen, of course, is the primary female sex hormone).

It is also now understood that the 3rd/4th son onwards born to any one mother has an increasing chance of being either homosexual or bisexual. Explanation? Again this is still being debated.

But this 'gay pride' thing is wrong. Yes, sometimes one has to say, 'this is how God made me and I should accept it,' yet one should hardly rejoice over a hormonal imbalance in the womb, or over intersexism, or just plain homosexuality; Our God prefers men to marry and become fathers wherever possible. It is not politically-correct to say so anymore but He also prefers to see women becoming loving wives and homemakers, rather than career women.

It is probably true to say that most of the New Testament attacks on homosexual behaviour are directed against male temple prostitution - not directed against a problem which often cannot be helped because the origin was in the womb of the mother. While it will have existed, this was almost certainly only a very small problem in New Testament times, possibly only really mushrooming from the 19th/20th century. However, recognising effeminacy within oneself does not necessarily mean one has to practice homosexuality; there is such a thing as self-restraint - especially in the Christian life.

Perhaps one should also mention in passing that New Testament times saw the presence of 'eunuchs' (men who were castrated with or without their own approval), so they were - surgically - turned into very effeminate, and very 'unmanly' men in order to do specific jobs (usually looking after harems). The New Testament seems to accept this pretty much without comment, but makes it plain that these people should be welcomed into the church (Acts 8:26-40)! Interestingly this tells us that very effeminate men were not absolutely anathema to the early Christians, as they often seem to be to 21st century evangelicals and fundamentalists. Sometimes it is stated that eunuchs were rendered 'sexless,' but that is technically untrue, they were only 'sexless' regarding women and, in many cases, could have been attracted to men from that point forwards.

So, in this area I tend to disagree with many of my fellow evangelicals who simply like to categorize homosexuals as "sinners," yet usually not condemning serial hetero-sexual adulterers, for example, in the same way. 'Gay marriage' is wrong, however, because marriage should be between a man and a woman.

In the past (that is, before the dreadful 'gay coming out movement'), people with such tendencies simply found someone who was likeminded and they lived quietly without drawing any attention to themselves. I believe that they did little harm.

Ultimately, this is a matter of one's conscience and one day we will all have to account for decisions which we have made. I find that I do not entirely agree with either of the two pastors my questioner refers to.

Can true love exist between two men? Most certainly and the Old Testament gives an example in the case of David and Jonathan. The Bible text is utterly clear that the two men deeply loved each other; however you want to qualify it, it was a love affair! 'Only good, brotherly love,' as countless somewhat embarrassed Sunday School Bible teachers have tried to describe it, is simply not being true to the Hebrew text.

Some may want me to give a more typical (from the Christian community, that is) raging attack on homosexuals, insisting they are on a one-way track to Hell. I'm sorry but I really must give a deeper and more thoughtful reaction to such questions.

Robin A. Brace. July 20th, 2013.

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